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I just got a voice text from my dear client and friend on the road who hit I-15 closures out of St George, Utah on her way to Thanksgiving the next day. Taking the detour and backtracking, she messaged me with tears running down her face as this literal detour brought her to the very edge of her frustration with the loneliness and detours of her life.
My heart broke because I know this place. I wrote her back:
Be soft and sweet and gentle with yourself. Life is detours.
Maybe we need a different word so that we don’t keep thinking that we are off-track. As painful as it feels, you are exactly where you are supposed to be, and the resistance you feel inside to that–to being exactly where you are right now
–comes from your heart hurting, being heartbroken.
The only thing to do is to go down into that beautiful heart of yours and be soft and gentle and sweet with her.
Listen to her, hold her, and understand her. She knows that you are on the right track. And she knows your desires because your heart is where those desires come from.
It’s in the places of total unknowing, and being with the sadness and loneliness, that you truly trust the path that you’re on and… open in REAL un-resistance to the future that fills all your heart is longing for.
Something in you knows better than what you think you know.
And when that something takes the driver’s seat, it usually looks like detours.
Trust yourself, trust life with your whole heart. Let the tears come and let go and trust. It will be better than you could ever imagine
…surprising and thrilling you just like it has before.