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I had an incredible session with a dear client this morning (the eve of Thanksgiving) and we spoke about her amazing Respect List: a list of personal statements that deeply affirmed and empowered her respect of herself at the next level of her life. (She’s seriously cool!)
She had listed, “I am not guilty” as one of her statements of self-respect, and it caught my attention. Guilt plagues us in both a full-on frontal attack, as well as subtly woven into something that looks good or innocent on the face of it.
I think guilt is my #1 killer of gratitude. And so…
Gratitude is my AMAZING discovery for transmuting guilt into something beautiful and useful.
When I first discovered this years ago at my office, I was running late getting to my next client. I’d been doing a lot of work on guilt and as I walked over to greet her, instead of apologizing profusely for my lateness, I instead said, “I appreciate your patience! Thank you for being so gracious.” And I knew I meant every word. I felt Great, not guilty!! She smiled broadly and we got down to business.
This is true over and over, whether it’s something I’ve done, something someone else has done, or something just inside of me. Gratitude.
The moment I reach out and find gratitude, nothing held back, my guilt–or my need for someone else to feel guilty–vanishes and my heart is FULL.
Not surprisingly, I’ve noticed that in finding gratitude, I also let go.
And I feel life move forward instead of sliding back which feels all kinds of good to me.